My child won’t eat: Top Tips for a Fussy Eater Toddler!

Dr Gill Harris, Consultant Paediatric Clinical Psychologist

 

This is one of the most stressful things that a parent has to cope with; a fussy eater who won’t try new food! As a parent you are given lots of information about what your child should eat, all those fruit and vegetables for a start! And no junk food, no crisps, no ready food, no biscuits. But the toddlers haven’t read the media advice, or if they have, they are ignoring it. So what can you do? And how much should you worry?

In the first of two blogs about fussy eating, we’ll be discussing what is important to know, and what to do with a fussy eater.

Is fussy eating normal?

It’s important to stress that at around the age of 2 years most children will start to get fussy; it is a normal stage of development (called food neophobia). At this age children will suddenly start to refuse any new food ON SIGHT and push away food that they used to eat before if it looks slightly different. They start to move out of this stage at around 3 or 4 years of age.

What I can I do about this?

Even though this is a normal stage, there are some things you can do to make things easier. Here are our top tips.

Top Five Things to Do with a Fussy Eater

  1. Safe foods. Allow your fussy child to eat the foods that they do like – their safe foods – appropriate growth is more important in the early years than dietary range
  2. Eat with your child at mealtimes. Even if they are not eating the food you want them to eat they are more likely to eat it eventually if they see you eat it. Eat with other families especially if they have children too
  3. Encourage them to interact with foods
    • Plan activities where they handle bits of fruit or vegetables – make pictures
    • Look, find and name foods in the shops and supermarket
    • Grow food – even in a plant pot on the window sill
    • Make food – roll dough, mix sauces
  4. Messy play. Don’t wipe all the time! Fussy eaters are over sensitive to touch, so desensitize with messy play –in the garden, face paints, playdoh
  5. Reward for tasting. You can start up a game with other children, look at some very small pieces of a new food, if you put it in your mouth you get a sticker! Do this away from mealtimes and allow spitting out!

Found these helpful? Why not share with your friends? And come back soon for our top five things to avoid with a fussy eater!

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Further Reading

  • By Melanie Pilcher and Dr. Gillian Harris Establishing bedtime routines for toddlers and young children
  • By Dr. Gillian Harris, Honorary Senior Lecturer in Applied Developmental Psychology at the University of Birmingham and ITF member Most parents will struggle at some point to get their toddlers to eat certain foods. Is toddler food refusal a sign of an eating disorder. or is it merely a phase? In the run up to Eating Disorder Awareness Week, Gill Harris provides practical advice to help parents tackle fussy eating in toddlers.  
  • By Lucy Upton, on behalf of the Infant and Toddler Forum On behalf of the members of the Infant and Toddler Forum, I am proud to announce the launch of a new infant feeding educational programme, which includes practical resources for frontline healthcare professionals (HCPs) working with parents and infants.